"I'll be happy when I'm a size six"
"If I had a six pack I'd be happy"
"I just want to lose all my jiggle, then I'll be happy"
Do any of those sound familiar to you?
Too often we view happiness as something to obtain, especially when it comes to our physical appearance. We constrict ourselves from loving our bodies and being happy until we reach our desired state of physical appearance. Happiness isn't found in our reflection, it is found within ourselves. Think back to your happiest memories, I am sure none of them have to do with the way you looked or how much you weighed. Rather, they were moments in time where you were completely at peace with yourself, where you weren't focused on your size, weight, or body shape. Maybe it was a summer afternoon with your toes in the sand or a brisk fall day with the sun shining down on your face. No matter the memory, the point is, that it didn't have anything to do with your looks.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight, become more in shape or strive for personal fitness goals. I am a full supporter of being the best version of you that you can possibly be. The problem is the tunnel vision that striving towards these goals can sometimes create. You won't be happy with yourself until you reach that specific goal. The path to that goal in your mind is a straight line, and ends at the desired goal.
Well, I've got news for you! Health and fitness is a journey, not a destination. There is no end point, it is lifelong. And with any journey there are bound to be mistakes, road blocks, and wrong turns. When our happiness is dependent on our exterior selves, these set backs become detrimental. We need to rid ourselves of the point A to point B then I'll be happy mindset when it comes to our bodies! Look within yourself and stop focusing on the outside. Love yourself as you already are, and what you are trying to be.
Stop looking to the mirror for reassurance and happiness, you won't find it there.
Close your eyes, silence your negative voice, and be at peace with yourself.